Inner Child Focus

You are the sum of everything you've ever been and have ever known. Because of this, you're blended together into one spirited being called You. When we do this work, we examine the different parts of who we are, explore them, define them, introduce them to each other, and define each of their roles in our lives.

When I work with my clients one of my goals for you is to make you fully aware of all the different parts of who you are. Awareness and insight allow you, the client, the ability to become whole, healthy in your mind body and spirit, and therefore more capable to experience creativity, the joy of playing again, feeling more confident and empowered. But most importantly  happy. This work easily gets to the root of the issues you carry including fear, separation, jealousy, anxiety, addiction, and/or loss to name a few. By doing this work, we can dig down and explore the "who, what, where, and when" that first hurt us. By acknowledging the hurt, we're healing the wound.

People often think they’re talking to each other when they’re really waiting for their turn to speak. Have you ever got wrapped up in a conversation that felt more like a monologue than a dialogue? I have, and it’s rarely a conversation I am eager to continue. If your answer is No, then it’s possible you’re the one reciting the monologue and there having a difficult experience creating meaningful connections. Either way, as bad as it sounds, there is a biological explanation for this:  “When we express ourselves, our bodies release a higher level of reward hormones, and we feel great. The more we talk, the better we feel. Our bodies start to crave that high, and we become blind to the conversational dynamics. While we’re being rewarded, the people we’re talking to might feel cut off, invisible, unimportant, minimized, or rejected, which releases the same neurochemicals as physical pain. Hence the desire to retreat from the awkward conversations with people your forced to interact with. When we feel invisible, we feel rejection, and rejection sends people into a “fight-or-flight” response, because after all no one wants to feel left out. This response releases cortisol (our primary stress hormone) that’s sole purpose is to flood our nervous system in order to shut down the prefrontal cortex, our rational/reasonable part of the brain, letting the amygdala, or reptile  brain, take over in order to survive what our brain is perceiving as a threatening exchange. Fun fact, the brain disconnects about every 12 to 18 seconds to evaluate and process we’re engaging in and decide if this is a good use of our energetic resources or if we’re being drained by an energy vampire; hence, we’re often paying as much attention to our own thoughts as we are to other people’s words. To function as adults, we need to be able to communicate as adults. And while these are natural impulses, if left unchecked, they can be quite destructive over time. Have you ever watched two teenagers argue? It’s a painful site to behold. That is because clear, compassionate, non-judgmental two-way communication skills occur in our executive brain which doesn’t fully form until we’re at least 25 years old. The difference between toddlers, teenagers, and adults is simply this; Toddlers and teenagers act out and have temper tantrums because cognitively they haven’t developed the skills to emotionally regulate, but then why does it happen frequently with those over the age of 25? How many adults have you witnessed having what can only be described as an adult temper tantrum? If you can’t think of any examples, I encourage you to engage with a stranger in a debate about religion and/or politics and you will see what I mean.  Blind Spot Therapy is about learning how to recognize your blind spots. Stop assuming that others see what you see, feel what you feel, and think what you think. Not to get all Matrix on you but our realities are not the same.  Perception is an intellectual process of receiving sensory stimuli and then transforming that stimulus into meaningful information based on the entirety of your life experiences. It is the process of interpreting something that we see or hear in our mind and use it later to judge and give a verdict on a situation, person, group etc.  Your blind spots cause you to fail to recognize that emotions, such as fear and distrust are also emotional triggers, that once activated can change how you and others interpret and talk about reality. You think you understand and remember what others say, when you really only remember what you think about what they say, and furthermore assign meaning to words that were never meant to be meaningful.